I started my site, way back when blogging wasn’t even a fad, as my way to speak publicly about issues that mattered to me at a time when there wasn’t really anyone like me doing so.
I haven’t checked out my earlier posts in years, but if you were to do that right now, I assume you might think they’re on the rough side.
Another thing you’ll also see is how open I was (and still am) about topics that others consider mainstream, like parents taking vacations from their kids (against this) and premarital cohabitation (also against this), to name just a few.
I’ve proudly been writing about things that not too many will address. I find this to be very invigorating.
Many things bring me pleasure: Writing and putting my voice out there are just two of those things.
Despite my love of sharing my points of view with the world, though, I don’t get off on Likes like other people. I just like putting myself out there, regardless of how pretty, popular, well-styled, or whatever, others may think I am. I KNOW I contribute lots of amazingness and I have been told as much–but I don’t need to constantly check and see how my posts are doing. I never do, in fact.
I grew up amid figurative popularity contests (which is what any non-popular person would say, haha) in which honestly the most noticed and promiscuous gals were in fact the most popular. I quickly learned to forego popularity if it meant I had to whore myself out like that.
I also learned that people who get off on Likes, Hearts, and endless streams of “you’re so pretty,” “beautiful!” and “you look gorgeous” comments are more inclined to seek validation from outside sources than from bettering themselves and learning new things.
They think that their outside beauty is timeless, when in reality it’s merely fleeting. They flaunt their bodies because that’s ALL they have to offer. In short, they value their outside more than their minds (which is pretty sad).
Naturally, they cherish these comments because it builds them up.
If you’re one of the “unpopulars” and find yourself randomly reading this, if you’re someone who’d rather be known for your mind than your body, YOU’RE NOT ALONE and I admire you because you’re to be admired. Let the pretty girls be pretty. I guarantee you you’re not only pretty, but also intelligent, which is a “dangerous” combination. I’d be willing to say you’re actually intimidating!
Were you unpopular in school, too?
Trust me: It takes someone who was intimidating growing up to know a fellow “intimidater.” What made me intimidating was mostly just my bitchy resting face (LOL) and my careless attitude toward vanity and being popular. But if you asked my teachers, they’ll tell you I performed stellarly and that I was focused on doing well and satisfying requirements–not on wearing the shortest skirt, attending parties, or even dating. In the end, I cared more about being liked by my teachers and superiors who’d dictate my future than by my peers.
I remember someone once telling me that I was intimidating because people don’t normally know what to “do with me”: I’m a thinker and not a talker. I enjoy school and learning but not socializing (thank God for online dating websites like the one I met my husband on). I liked men but could care less about the ones that wouldn’t see that I liked them (I never made the first move).
I embrace NOT having mainstream opinions because I’m unique.
I don’t post perfectly styled, attention-craving shots of my face, my body, or our home; I’m not about that life and never have been. I love our photographer, whom I’ve known for years, and I could afford collaborating with her or other photographers often to “sell” an image, but frankly I’d rather spend time with my loved ones than care about anyone else thinks.
Plus, my body is more for my husband’s eyes than everyone else’s so what’s the point in flaunting it to strangers?
(No, really, if you’re in a committed relationship, WTH is the point of showing off your assets? To advertise that you could get anybody? I guess if your man gets off on that because it makes him think he has a mere coveted trophy, then oh well. But I’d like to think that you’re more than your body and should be seen as such–just sayin’. Then later don’t complain about objectification and sexualization when you’re one of the gals to blame.)
Feminism has done more damage than good, I tell ya.
Anyways, back to blogging.
When a post gets feedback and people respond to it, I know I’m doing something right.
If they like it, great. If not, great, too. If it offends them? The issue lies with THEM–not me.
Believe it or not, I stand behind everything I say, and many people thank me for expressing a view similar to theirs that they don’t often see often. I’ll always unabashedly speak up for what’s right and against impropriety, premarital cohabitation, snowflakes, and mediocrity, among many other things.
Society has turned many things that are wrong into things that are supposedly OK and I won’t stand for that. I speak for the many who don’t see their point of view out there. Radicals and feminists have regressed our culture into an unrecognizable mass of nonsense, but I like to think I’m one of the few working hard to restore common sense.
Blogging, writing, and website creation have been extremely liberating avenues through which I can express my true self, and I’m proud to say I’ll only keep on doing it.
In fact, I have big plans for 2019. Stay tuned.
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Now tell me: Were you unpopular in school, too? Do you have a blog now? If you identify with what I write, share your link below and let’s be blog friends!